WIT :: of winning and tarnishing the win


So how utterly stoked (Yes, I said stoked. I’m so old!) am I that I won the 40+Style contest?! I’m one of those people who never win anything. Or if I do, it’d be something ridiculous like a 24 pack of toilet paper. (Fact. That’s what I won at my hub’s Christmas party raffle.)

To win the style challenge, then, especially in the face of some pretty stiff competition, is a grand honor indeed. I spent the greater part of Thursday (when the winners were announced) unable to concentrate on work and debating instead on which pair of shoes I’d purchase with my $75 Zappos voucher. I also used up my precious lunch hour perusing then finally choosing the top I’d get from Covered Perfectly (it’s that zebra top in the collage above). And I kept getting all these lovely congratulatory messages in my inbox from the ladies in the community who participated and hopefully voted for me to win.

It should’ve been a slam dunk day.

Sadly, the same notification updates that allowed me to receive all the congratulations also brought to my inbox a rather noxious comment regarding the contest and the way it was run. I refrained from commenting on Sylvia’s blog out of deference to her – I doubt she needed/wanted a flame war – and also because she handled the situation with class and aplomb, but nothing is stopping me from getting on my soapbox in my home turf.

To be fair, the commenter was very specific and logical in what I’m sure he perceived were valid arguments. And he wasn’t outright combative or troll-like. He was, however, accusatory and pompous, and he intimated that the winners won – not because of quality and effort – but because it was a popularity contest! To quote my newfound friend Anne Bray, I gnash my teeth at him!!!

Popularity contest indeed! I don’t know that many people, let alone that many people who’d go on a random site and vote for me. Sure, I did a Facebook status update and shamelessly self-promoted, but I garnered one vote from that. (Well, one that admitted to doing it anyway.) And sure, I pumped it up at work and ran around like the proverbial headless chicken asking my coworkers to vote. But I work at a school of 20 teachers, half of whom were in class and therefore couldn’t be bothered. I doubt my last-minute campaigning tipped the scales. And I’m sure the other contestants hyped it up on their ends as well.


Okay, rant over. I don’t know why I’m still so upset. The slings and arrows weren’t directed at me and the target herself didn’t seem too concerned. I should just let it go. I guess I just feel my win diminished by the intimation that I didn’t deserve it, that I won – not because I worked hard and followed the parameters – but because I purposely chose “popular” images to clinch the prize. And I’m also saddened at the thought that there will always be people out there who, for some inexplicable reason or another, feel that they’re well within their rights to ruin everyone else’s good time.

My mother taught me that if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. I wish more folks had moms like mine.

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14 thoughts on “WIT :: of winning and tarnishing the win

  1. […] remember when I won the 40+ Style contest? I’d promised Sylvia I would let her know how I’d spend my gift certificates, but […]

  2. kyasariin says:

    I, admittedly, also voted from your Facebook status. (:

  3. jangrahammcmillen says:

    Awww. Baby girl … such a big butthead to be mean to you. Troglodyte. Troll.
    Neither you nor Sylvia deserved that. Your stuff was wonderful, and you won because you write well and have great taste, and you participated fully in the spirit of the challenge.
    May his rash never heal.
    It’s unusual to have events like that come up in grown-up style circles, so that’s something. Sorry you had be one of the few who find themselves bearing the brunt of it.

    • mtsedwards says:

      So I read and reread your comment and I felt all warm and fuzzy inside because you reminded me that life is yin and yang. That for every troll out there, there will always be someone as wonderful and kind and empathetic as you. Butthead, indeed! ;p

  4. M. Montoya says:


    As a fellow participant in the challenge, I was so dismayed to see those negative comments on the winning announcement page. I understand why it upset you. Try to forget it and enjoy your win. You absolutely deserve it!

    • mtsedwards says:

      Thank you for understanding. I am going to put it all aside now and go shopping. Amazing how writing things down exorcizes all the bad juju, doesn’t it? And it helps when you unsubscribe to the thread too. ๐Ÿ™‚ I just hope my little rant over here doesn’t get to anyone over there and cause a backlash.

  5. Congratulations! I’m not completely in the know about the contest, but I saw all the stuff you were pinning, and it great! You worked for the win and deserve it.
    But hey, even if you won because you’re popular, what’s wrong with that? If you’re popular it’s because you have a creative, interesting blog, that you work hard on. So, either way, you deserve to win!

    • mtsedwards says:

      Thank you, m’dear. That means a lot. I’ve since unsubscribed from that thread and am just gonna enjoy the fruits of my labor. Wanna help me shop? ;p

  6. Pat says:

    Congrats! I enjoy following your style blog, even tho I am older than you. Your attempts encourage me to look for new ways to pair individual pieces. One of my fav outfits is the one you pictured above wearing the graphic tee, blazer and shoes. Way to go!

    • mtsedwards says:

      Thank you for following my blog, Pat. Glad to have you on board! I love that graphic tee outfit too. And to think I was gonna return that blazer because I couldn’t style it at the time I bought it. Just goes to show how you really need to give pieces a chance before culling them.

  7. Love the right and left outfit

  8. Val S says:

    First of all, congratulations! I’m sure you deserved it – you have great style, and make it look so easy. And second, the complaining just sounds like sour grapes and, as you said, it’s ill-mannered. Enjoy your win, and your prizes!!!

    • mtsedwards says:

      Thank you, Val. I wish my dad was still alive to hear that. He used to despair of my being the only daughter of four that never inherited his style and good taste. He even picked out my prom dress because he was afraid I’d embarrass myself. I guess I’m just a late bloomer. ๐Ÿ˜€

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